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Juggling faith and family when Christmas is on Sunday

Choirs perform during a Christmas Eve service at Christ Cathedral Catholic Church in Garden Grove, Calif., on Dec. 24, 2010. Photo courtesy of Creative Commons

(RNS) When Christmas falls on a Sunday, as it does this year, it’s a blessing in the eyes of the Rev. Walter Kim.

“We are not only celebrating the birth of Jesus on Christmas Day but we’re also celebrating his death and resurrection, which is why we have worship services on Sunday,” he said of his Park Street Church in Boston.

But Christmas on a Sunday can also present a conundrum as pastors try to balance parishioners’ sacred religious observance at church with family time in the home. And ministers’ own families are part of the challenge. The last time Christmas fell on a Sunday, in 2011, some pastors’ kids took to Twitter about the situation, with one using the hashtag “#dadsapastor” and noting “I love waiting until 11 to open presents.”

Though most churches opt to hold Sunday services on Christmas, there are a myriad of ways that churches and pastors handle a Christmas Sunday.

Walter Kim. Photo courtesy of Park Street Church

The Rev. Walter Kim is lead minister at Park Street Church in Boston. Photo courtesy of Park Street Church

Kim’s church, which also will have three Christmas Eve services, reflects what seems to be the norm: Churches, which often hold worship on Sunday, will continue the tradition when that Sunday also is Christmas Day. But other congregations, sometimes small and often very large, have opted to close that day and let the faithful focus on family.

The leaders of Elmbrook Church, a nondenominational megachurch in Brookfield, Wis., for example, were mindful of its corps of 500 volunteers — including parking lot attendants, greeters and coffee makers — when they decided to have extended Christmas Eve services from Thursday through Saturday and no service on Christmas Day.

Brodie Swanson, Elmbrook’s executive pastor, said the church will emphasize the birth of Jesus in the days ahead of Christmas and allow those volunteers to have the freedom “to spend that special morning” at home.

Brodie Swanson. Photo courtesy of Elmbrook Church

Brodie Swanson is executive pastor of Elmbrook Church in Brookfield, Wis. Photo courtesy of Elmbrook Church

“There’s a lot of people behind the scenes that really help this place run on a weekend and so we want to make sure we’re considering everybody,” he said.

North Point Community Church in Alpharetta, Ga., is another megachurch that is holding extended Christmas Eve services, with some on Friday and some on Saturday, but no Christmas Sunday service.

That church, and others like it, was criticized by the Pulpit and Pen blog, which said: “To skip it on the day when believers normally gather seems particularly callous to our Lord.”

Kim said he doesn’t want to judge clergy who will keep their doors closed this Christmas, but he said there’s more than one kind of family to consider on the holy day.

“On the one hand, some may argue that this is competing with family time when we think of it in terms of physical family,” said Kim, whose church is affiliated with the Conservative Congregational Christian Conference. “But when we think about our spiritual family this is actually the perfect occasion to maintain the Christmas spirit by celebrating it with our spiritual family.”

Graphic courtesy of LifeWay Research

Graphic courtesy of LifeWay Research

A survey of 1,000 Protestant pastors by LifeWay Research found that churches keeping their doors closed on Christmas Sunday are in the minority. (Catholics, who were not included in the survey, generally gather for midnight Mass as Christmas begins or Christmas morning, no matter which day it occurs.)

Almost 9 out of 10 pastors said they will be holding worship services on Christmas Day this year, while 71 percent plan Christmas Eve services. Nearly two-thirds will be worshipping on both days.

Philip Nation, the new senior pastor of First Baptist Church of Bradenton, Fla., conducted his own, nonscientific study of pastors on Twitter in the fall as he mulled what he should do on his first Christmas with the Southern Baptist congregation.

Responses to Nation, who also is an assistant professor at Houston Baptist University, ranged from plans for casual services with a cappella Christmas carols to a church “going all in” on Christmas Eve and holding no Sunday morning service. One church planned identical services for the two days and encouraged people to attend one and spend the other day with family. Another said it opted for just a Friday night service: “We want our folks to be with their families.”

Nation said he was juggling the questions of family versus faith not only for congregants and volunteers but for his staffers, who have young children.

“I’m pulling you away from your kids and they’re going to have this memory lodged in their mind of the Christmas that Dad seemed to be absent,” was part of his thinking.

Tim Stevens of Vanderbloemen Search Group, a Houston-based executive search firm for churches and ministries, said he has discussed with pastors the dilemmas and opportunities that come with these Christmas Day services that occur only once in a while.

“I know many leaders say they can’t afford to cancel Sunday services,” he said, noting they tell him: “Our people won’t give their offerings if we aren’t meeting.”

In an effort to keep families together in the pews and reduce the work of volunteers, some churches that will be open on Christmas Day are offering no Sunday school and limited or no child care.

Nation pointed out that it can, nevertheless, turn into a marathon day for some churchgoing families who forgo staying in their pajamas all morning.

Service members and civilians celebrate Christmas Eve Candlelight Service at Al Faw Palace in Baghdad, Iraq, on Dec. 24. 2011. Photo courtesy of Lee Craker via Creative Commons

Service members and civilians celebrate Christmas Eve Candlelight Service at Al Faw Palace in Baghdad on Dec. 24, 2011. Photo courtesy of Lee Craker via Creative Commons

“It will be interesting to see how many families with young kids decide to make the transition from the early morning rising that kids go through to find out what’s under the Christmas tree to the transition of ‘Everybody get dressed up; it’s time to go to church,’” he said. “And then knowing that they’ve got to bust out as soon as the last note is hit on the service so that they can get to grandma’s house for lunch.”

Not a typical Sunday, by any means: “So much for a day of rest,” he said.

About the author

Adelle M. Banks

Adelle M. Banks, production editor and a national reporter, joined RNS in 1995. An award-winning journalist, she previously was the religion reporter at the Orlando Sentinel and a reporter at The Providence Journal and newspapers in the upstate New York communities of Syracuse and Binghamton.

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  • In addition to two Christmas eve services and one on Christmas Day, our church through a corps of volunteers provides a served traditional Christmas dinner at noon to anyone in the community – although mainly people who are on their own, can not go to a restaurant, or lack the resources to buy and/or cook a meal on their own.

  • I think this article says far more about the erosion of spiritual values in favor of materialistic ones around holidays that used to be spiritual but are become more and more about stuff (unwrapping those presents). I would not want to attend a place of worship or seek spiritual guidance from someone more concerned about presents under the tree than spiritual values and growth.

  • This is too easy. For the sincere Christian of whatever stripe, when Christmas falls on a Sunday then the place of worship is where you should be unless there is a genuinely compelling reason which makes it difficult or impossible. As Christians are in fact the “Church” the spirit that animates them at Christmas is necessarily a proper component of their lives throughout the year.

  • Thank God the NFL doesn’t schedule a Sunday afternoon football match-up on these rare times when Christmas falls on Sunday, or many families would be headed for a real catastrophe!

  • For the LDS Church, for Christmas the usual three-hour block of meetings is reduced to just the one-hour sacrament meeting.

  • “Brodie Swanson, Elmbrook’s executive pastor, said the church will emphasize the birth of Jesus in the days ahead of Christmas and allow those volunteers to have the freedom “to spend that special morning” at home.” The Reason for the day has become less important than the day?

  • I don’t understand why this is a problem. Christmas is one of the High Holy days- Church comes first. In our family, the kids are allowed to get into their stocking when they get up, and the presents under the tree wait until after services. (On Christmases that don’t fall on Sunday, our kids get to have their stockings, but must wait until the adults are up and breakfast is had before they get the presents under the tree.)

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